Friday, May 28, 2010

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime

Two days ago, I received a lovely email in my inbox. I know we all receive "chain emails", the kind that state you have to forward to so many friends by a certain time or something good won't happen, but this little treasure arrived at precisely the right time! I was more than happy to forward it to my most special of friends, and more importantly, I read it and took note. It hit a chord in my heart. So please enjoy:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person..

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is a clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

This lovely little email put things from the last couple of months in to a new perspective.

And that's it for this morning - no quote, as I feel this passage says it all.

Have a really lovely day!

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Baby talk

Just a quickie.....

I'm not ready for my 22 month old baby girl to cease having her daily nap! I am hoping she is not ready also, but the fact that she has taken to lying in her cot for a couple of hours every day mucking around, pooing or generally just hanging out makes me think she has a hidden agenda! Is it that she just loves me soooo much that she can't bare the thought of going to sleep and missing out on something? Oh, I make myself laugh.....

Quote for today is an oldie but a goodie! "Patience is a virtue"....I must have virtue in the bucket load!

Enjoy your day, as I venture in to her bedroom to surrender and prepare myself for a grizzly girl in approximately two hours!

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Light Bulb Moment

So I've been rattling on about how busy life has been and how stressed I have been, but have not gone in to more detail because I just couldn't put my finger on it. I didn't know how to express how I was feeling in a way that didn't ramble on and on endlessly and wouldn't make me cry! But yesterday, whilst enjoying a very rare and relaxing day at home, I had a light bulb moment. You know those moments Oprah talks about relentlessly? Well, Hallelujah! The light bulb finally lit up for me!

I worked out the reason why I had been so sad the last couple of months - the loss of a best friend is the equivalent to the break up of a marriage. Now that may seem quite full on and over the top for some of you reading this, but to me - it hit the proverbial nail on the head. I have been, and still am, in mourning over a friendship I thought would be life long. Someone who had become, in my eyes, an integral part of our family and a huge part of my children's lives.

It has been especially hard to fathom because I can honestly say that in my 35 years in this world, I have never, ever had a "falling out" with a friend. I was one of the lucky girls who didn't have to put up with other girls crap. Have never been the target of a group of girls who decide I am not cool enough, or good enough to be part of their enclave. So I guess it is no wonder that I am struggling with this, and really just do not know how to deal with it? On the other hand, it has also made me reflect on my earlier years and wonder whether I ever made anyone else feel the way I am currently feeling? I certainly hope not.

I have said in earlier posts how lucky and blessed I feel for having such a wonderful array of friends and not just passing friendships, but many of them have been formed over decades. So I am now coming to the conclusion that although I may have "lost" a friend, I have so many other amazing people in my life, that it is now time to just move on and let bygones be bygones.

So I am sharing this with you because from today onwards, I am going to make a concerted effort to "get over it". To stop worrying about what I may have done, or what they did or didn't do. I have decided I have wasted so much energy worrying about what other people think of me (which is exactly what I did when I actually did get divorced) and need to direct that energy towards my family and the friends who really value me for the person I am.

So, in my husband's words, here is today's quote for the day - "It's their loss". Haven't we all told someone that at some stage? Well, I am now going to listen to those words and try to remember it when I have my sad days. Onwards and upwards!

Have a fantastic day!

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Sharing is caring

What to do in the case of a very elderly gentleman, whose congestive heart failure is seemlingly getting the better of him? He has lived one of the most colourful lives I have come across, and is a brave man - born in the 1920's to a caring yet stoic mother and father, who unfortunately had to make the difficult decision to relinquish the care of their son to an institution (once politely named "Janefield Colony for Mental Defectives"). His "defect"? An intellectual disability and schitzophrenia. I came to know him 13 years ago, when I began working in his home as a disability carer. And over those years I have laughed, cried and on many occasions been left speechless by the amazing tales he has shared.

As this enduring old man makes his way through his ninth decade of life, the question is: to allow him to live out his remaining days in his own home, surrounded by people (carers and co-residents) who genuinely love him and would do anything to make him feel comfortable and safe. Or, give in to bureaucracy, and let those with higher ranks make the decision to move him to another group home or nursing home, where people don't know him and aren't familiar with his own little quirks, or alternatively do not have the staffing to allow the time and patience required to help him through his days?

This is the position I, and my co-workers, are finding ourselves in at present. For the past month I have gone to every shift wondering whether this man, who is like family, is still with us? On one hand, I am hoping that he is still battling on and telling his amusing stories, but on the other - wishing that his heart has taken its final beat whilst he is with familiar faces and those who cherish him.

My quote for the day - "Home IS where the heart is". Not where convenience and cost dictates.....

Enjoy your evening!

Friday, May 21, 2010

Decisions, decisions....

What to decide, I hear you say? Well, now that I am aware that my blog is actually being read, and by friends none-the-less - am I going to have to think more carefully before I actually post my thoughts? My decision - I am going to do my best to not over analyse my thoughts before pushing the "publish post" button!

I have once again been AWOL from you little blog.....but have no fear, I have not abandoned you! I have truly just been so busy and snowed under with not only work, children, husband and life in general, but my head has been spinning for a couple of months now with my over analytical thoughts and worries. And as I write this post, it is still spinning and unfortunately I am having a lot of trouble slowing it down!

As I sit here happily (albeit hurriedly)blogging away, I can hear my children playing and await a scream or cry to alert me that it's not going so well. I was expecting my husband to walk through the door 20 minutes ago after being interstate for the past 3 days - but nooooo, Qantas decided it would send his baggage on a trip to another capital city, so he is currently sitting at the airport waiting on said luggage to land. My gorgeous, but naughty, little poodle baby is sitting outside the back door due to his ever increasing habit of peeing inside and I am trying incredibly hard to ignore it all and pretend that everything is just peachy!

I promise I will return with a much more interesting and enthralling post in the very near future.

And my quote for the day? "The only people you need in your life are the ones that need you in theirs. Don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option." I have no idea where this originated from, but I saw it on a friend's facebook page and although I whole-heartedly agree, I struggle on a daily basis to do so.

Have a lovely day!
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